Women and Relationships Part 2...

I received this in my inbox today....take note...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. ! He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them. BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT..............

President Obama and Our First Lady

Absolutely Beautiful.

THE LOVE OF MY LIFE

I LOVE SHOES! I mean really really love them! Take the shoes to the right....GORGEOUS I saw them in the store and they took my breath away (literally) I had to have them, and I do. Many people ask me why in the world I'd want to walk around in 5in high pointy toe shoes but I don't care how much pain I'm in, how can you say no to those! I call them sexy cappuccino, the picture honestly doesn't do them any justice! I get excited just thinking about high heels, the higher the better, and being that I am tall already I guess its a bit strange that I'd want to be even taller-but I don't care!!! I've even had dreams about having a shoe room, yes a room, a whole room filled with shoes...kind of like the closet Big made Carrie..but BIGGER! So maybe I do have a problem....ok, yes I have a problem...but hey, it's better to be addicted to shoes then drugs right??? Beautiful shoes, you take my breath away, brighten my day when I'm sad, make me feel beautiful, cause me some pain sometimes, but ur worth it! I'm beginning to think my shoes sound like a man...maybe I'll marry shoes...ok I'm not that crazy... but I mean....

Adios!

Women and Relationships *sigh*

                                                                                  

                         

I have a friend who we shall call....Sasha (her idea not mine, my first choice was "I think I'm Important Pretty and Fabulous, but I'm really not")...anyway... Sasha has been on an off with her boyfriend/ex depending on the time of the day for three years. As of right now it is her boyfriend..however, that could change by the time I post this entry. I met sasha this past summer and though she is now a good friend of mine her relationship with her boyfriend/ex is beyond ridiculous. She actually has a decent guy, but she's not ready to settle down and just wants to date and be free to date other people, therefore, leaving her boyfriend/ex heartbroken time and time again. The last time they broke up, maybe a month ago? I can't keep up...anyway she claimed that this was it and it was final, no more getting back together she was done playing the yo-yo game. Today as we chatted on aim chat with our other friend Oprah (she asked to be called that) sasha proceeded to inform me of all the throngs of men vying for her affection . . . I asked her about her boyfriend/ex and if they were still pretending to not be together but seeing each other everyday and she let me know they were in fact back together...SHOCKING...not. Here's how the rest of our convo went-

Oprah- YOU'RE TOGETHER???

Sasha- Sadly, Yes

Oprah- If you're sad then why are you doing it

Me- O gosh, this is ridiculous

Sasha- Lol, Im trifflin I know 

*For those of you unsure of what trifflin means...please exit now, Thank You*

I don't get it, she knows she doesn't want to be in a relationship, she even knows she doesn't want to marry the poor guy, but yet...she continues this ridiculous cycle *sigh*

I have another friend and I won't even begin to go into that but  I have come to the conclusion that women young and old lose a big piece of common sense and logic when love/lust come into play. We stay in going no where fast relationships with men who we know are not what we truly want or who truly deserve us because of the fear of being alone. (I've been there too) It makes me quite sad to think that this is what we've come to..

Women- Love is beautiful, and can be an exciting journey when you find it with that special person, but don't let that person define who you are as a person and yes it does take work when two completely different people from completely different worlds try and come together. HOWEVER, it is important to know when its time to let something go! It's important to know ahead of time what you will and won't put up with and stick to that! Know your worth. Don't be desperate. Don't stay in a situation because you're too afraid of being alone. Don't let your ears hear what you want to hear or your eyes see what you want to see, get it together ladies! Don't settle, you will regret it later! It's better to be alone and happy then together and miserable thinking of the what could have beens....However, if you find a good man who loves you and you love him and respects you and respect him hold on tight and work through it!

As you can see I can talk about this topic forever so be on the look out for Women and Relationships parts 2, 3, 4, 5....1,999,999,999

Au Revoir!